Whatever you feel today, it’s okay.
If you’re a mother who lost their child before you met them, you’re still a mother. Whatever you feel is okay and valid. You’re allowed to grieve. You’re allowed to be pampered. Whatever you feel today is okay and valid.
If you’re a mother who lost their child, it’s okay to be angry at the world for not giving you a child to celebrate mother’s day with. They are still your baby. You are still a mother. It’s okay to feel whatever you feel. Your emotions are real and valid.
If you long more than anything to be a mother and you haven’t become one for whatever reason, whatever you feel is okay and valid. You don’t have to confirm to so-called standards.
If you have no desire whatsoever to be a mother, whatever you feel today is okay and valid. You don’t have to become a mother just because it’s what society seems to want of you. If you don’t want kids, that’s okay!
If you have a great mother and want to sing her praises, by all means do so! Whatever you want to do is okay, just please don’t shame those in other situations. You were blessed with a wonderful, caring mother and I’m so happy for you. Please be sensitive to those that were not.
If you have a shitty mother and you’re still in contact with her, it’s okay if you don’t feel like calling her. It’s okay if you don’t want to hang out with her on mother’s day. Whatever emotions you feel are okay and valid – and they’re very much real.
If you’ve lost your mother, that’s okay. It’s okay to grieve and take time away from Facebook or Tumblr or whatever today. I’m sorry you had such a difficult loss. I’m sorry you lost the person you loved so dearly. But please don’t shame those who have living mothers who don’t contact them for whatever reason. Trust me, many of them would love to contact their mother and feel loved/accepted/wanted vs the verbal abuse or shitstorms that happen.
If you have no contact with your mother, that’s okay. You don’t have to confirm to society or fill out a card just for one day a year to boost their ego. You don’t have to allow someone to treat you like shit – just because you share DNA does not mean you’re family and it does not give them a free pass to abuse you.
If you had no contact with your mother and they’re not dead, never to hurt you again, it’s okay to be happy. It’s okay to be relieved. It’s okay to just pretend the day doesn’t exist.
If you are a mother and you want to celebrate/be celebrated today, that’s okay too. Respect your children’s feelings either way. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be loved and appreciated. If your children love you, they will show it and that is a blessing. 🙂
I’m sure there are many situations I missed. I’m sure people hate me for posting this. But you know what? It doesn’t matter. Whatever you feel today is okay and valid. Whatever you feel today is what YOU feel and it’s what’s right for YOU. Don’t let others bully you into doing something that is dangerous for your mental or physical health. It’s OKAY to not want to do these things. It’s OKAY to want to do things. It’s okay to even want and not want all at once!
Whatever you feel today, it’s okay and valid.