I am not going into details because this is a public blog. It is vague ON PURPOSE. Do NOT ask me for details because you will NOT get them. Get it? Got it? Good.
Explaining why someone acted the way they did is not victim blaming. For example:
“I don’t understand why so and so didn’t stop.”
“So and so didn’t stop because you didn’t stop.”
“THAT’S VICTIM BLAMING!!!”
Now, if you had said IT IS YOUR FAULT, yes, that is victim blaming. Explaining the possible reason is NOT.
Wanna know what else something isn’t? Abuse isn’t someone telling you you’re wrong. Abuse isn’t kindly correcting someone. Triggering, yes, but abuse, no.
Also, if you delete all posts from someone calling you out on your bullshit doesn’t make you look good.
This has been a PSA from Nora.