What It Means To Choose To Love

I choose love.

Let me be abundantly clear. Black lives matter. Period. End of discussion. This is not up for debate in any way, shape, or form. I see so many people say that we need to choose to love instead of hate. That love will solve everything. I see people asking where the love is, and why the world is the way that it is.

I need you to read this. I need you to take this message in.

Choosing to love doesn’t mean that we pretend problems don’t exist. Police brutality is a very real issue. In many parts of this country, black lives DON’T matter. Choosing to love doesn’t mean that we carry on with our daily lives and act like there aren’t real problems happening around us.

That’s not what it means to love.

When I say that I choose to love, I’m not saying I don’t get angry. I’m not saying that I don’t want to see change. I choose to use love as my guiding force. Choosing love doesn’t mean that I’m blowing off concerns or minimalizing very real issues.

Choosing love means I know when I need to sit down, shut up, and listen. Choosing love means I acknowledge the privileges I have as a white person (and important size note: HAVING privilege doesn’t mean one IS privileged as privilege is a layered, complex issue but that’s another blog post). Choosing love means I amplify the voices of people of color. Choosing love means I speak out about injustice. Choosing love means I do what I can to make a difference in the world.

Love doesn’t mean accepting the script. Love doesn’t mean not rocking the boat. Love doesn’t mean that I’m not afraid. Love doesn’t mean that I’m timid or meek. But what love does mean is that I’m outspoken about injustice. Love does mean that I want to see real change, and I want to see it as soon as possible.

Don’t use your love to silence other people. Don’t use love to sit in comfort. Don’t use your love to silence other people. Let love be your guiding force. Let love be your reason for being. Love alone isn’t what’s going to change the world and solve everything. It’s what you do as a result of that love that will.