As April approaches, it becomes increasingly more difficult to be autistic. Throughout most of the world, April is labeled as “Autism Awareness Month”. People, both well-meaning and not, start “lighting it up blue.” To learn why you shouldn’t light it up blue, read this. If you use to light it up blue, read this.
As April approaches, autistics like me find ourselves completely worn out. We find ourselves constantly having to tell everyone what the problem with “awareness” is. We find ourselves weary and worn, our voices drowned out by allistic parents.
I have a lot of autistic friends. We are all varied, unique people. We’re not high functioning or low functioning, we’re just autistic. We use various methods of communication, every single one valid. We stim. And each and every one of us are autistic.
As April approaches, it becomes tiring. And the thing is, even when April ends, the aggression never ends. So please, have some compassion this April. Don’t rely on your autistic friends to do all the educating, but at the same time don’t speak over us.
As April approaches, it’s easy to fall into the mindset that this is the only time the ableism against autistic people amps up. However, we face ableism every single day of every single year. It isn’t unique to April, even though it is worse in April.
So please, check on us. Make sure we’re okay and taking care of ourselves. Make sure that we’re not wasting our limited energy and time on people who simply won’t listen. Remind us to fight the battles that matter, and let go of the rest. Remind us to mourn the dead, and fight like hell for the living. Because as April approaches, we’re going to need a little extra love.