It’s still April.
It’s still Autism Freakout Month.
I’m still being blasted by blue. I’m still being surrounded by Autism Speaks. Nothing has changed. The same words keep getting thrown back at me.
“I’m not lighting it up blue for Autism Speaks, I’m lighting it up for my son.”
“Blue has always been the colour for autism.”
Taken directly from the Autism Speaks website:
“The first question we wanted to ask was – why blue? What does the color blue have to do with the autism spectrum? The answer is that Autism Spectrum Disorders are almost 5 times more common among boys (1 in 54) than among girls (1 in 252). So, the color blue represents the boys diagnosed with autism.”
Blue has only been the colour for as long as A$ has been around. Before that, it was a really freaky looking of a puzzle head kid. Learn your history before you say things.
“But I want to raise awareness for *insert here*”
And my favorite…
“But isn’t all awareness good?”
No. No it isn’t.
Your awareness wants me dead.
A bit louder for those in the back, and with feeling: your awareness wants me dead.
You see, they support eugenics.
They and their “fans” justify murder.
They think we are burdens and destroyers of hope.
What? Eugenics? Really.
I’ll say it again, this time with a different link.
Look me in the eye. Tell me that my mother should have aborted me or that I literally shouldn’t exist. Tell me that I’m a burden or that my life isn’t worth living. Oh wait, you already have.
Because by saying your child/grandson/nephew is a burden? You’re saying I am one by proxy. “Oh, you are not like my child” when we were once your child. Contrary to popular belief, autistic children become autistic adults. I know, right?
Look at me in my awesome Pokemon gear and tell me that I don’t deserve to live. That at 28, I shouldn’t still love Pokemon and Sesame Street. Dare you. Even if you don’t say it, I’m sure you’re thinking it.
When you say “but isn’t all awareness good?”, you are supporting Autism Speaks by proxy. By denouncing them and still promoting their Light It Up Blue campaign you are still spewing the hatred that Autism Speaks. Acceptance. Your awareness is useless. Please accept us. We’re fine as we are.
When you keep repeating over and over “But ALL awareness is good!” you are silencing us when we tell you what Autism Speaks means. What they do to us. What they do to your children. When we cry out and scream for acceptance, we mean accept us as we are. Don’t force us to do things that are painful for us to fit your neurotypical molds.
Your awareness wants me dead.
When an autistic child or an autistic adult who is dependent on a caregiver is murdered, it seems it is mostly fellow autistics who weep and mourn the loss of life. I still cry over every one I read but it’s getting harder and harder to cry. One day, it’ll be so common there will be no tears left. I don’t want that to happen. But what happens when these people are murdered? “SERVICES! SERVICES! SERVICES!” “It’s SO HARD raising an AUTISTIC CHILD!” “Walk in THEIR shoes!” “YOU DO NOT UNDERSTAND.”
That is what your awareness screams to me.
When you say people aren’t aware of lower functioning autistics, well, first of all, you should know that functioning labels are a bunch of crap and it’s actually the ones that society insists on deeming low functioning that we hear about than the ones who have learned how to pass in a difficult world. When you say we don’t speak for so-callled low functioning autistics, you’re ignoring the fact that MANY of them do speak for themselves and are happy as they are.
Please stop telling me that all awareness is good.
Please stop telling me that all awareness matters.
Please just stop telling me you aren’t lighting it up blue for Autism Speaks.
Go red instead.
Support Autistic Run places.
Love us and support us as we are.
We’re worth it. I promise.
Please don’t wish me dead.