These secrets are walls that keep us alone

Sometimes I wish I were someone other than me
Fighting to make the mirror happy – Bethany Dillon

I hate it. I hate how every day is a battle. I hate how  every frick-fracking meal is a battle. Even one BITE is a battle. It’s a fight. It’s a war. It’s an all out battlezone against myself. I didn’t chose this, though some days I wish I had because then I could just chose for it all to be over. Some days I wish it was more of a choice, because then I could just chose not to be this way. Chose not to live in this hellhole. Chose not to live in this torment inside my head for every meal, every bite, every time.

And soon, obsessing over food and meals and bites becomes not enough. Certain foods can’t touch each other. Certain foods can. Certain foods are okay to eat. Others aren’t (gluten allergy not withstanding). And the obsession and control spreads out. Certain numbers are okay. Others aren’t. And everything becomes a downward spiral of control and spins wildly out of control. And I can’t just snap out of it. I can’t just stop being anal. I can’t just cowboy up.

How I wish I could! How I wish I could just get over it. How I wish I could just start eating again. How I wish it was just that simple! I want it to be like that. I want it to be like that. I wish I could eat without my head tormenting me. I wish I could eat without such torment, such inner anguish. I hate it, I hate every bit of it.

I don’t want to be like this. At times, I find myself thinking that I wish I hadn’t chosen to have an eating disorder then I want to whack myself upside the head because who the hell does? No one chooses to have an eating disorder. It’s a psychological illness, just like depression or anxiety or a post traumatic stress disorder. And it’s not my fault. I can chose to get help and chose to overcome it, but it doesn’t change the fact it makes every day a struggle, every minute a fight.

And I hate myself for it. I hate myself for the fact that I was dealt this deck, on top of my medical problems, on top of my trauma past, on top of everything else. I hate myself for who I am today, even though none of it is my fault and it isn’t rational, I still hate so deeply although I know it isn’t right. Kinda screwed up but I guess it’s part of the cycle, part of how it goes.

I hate who I am. I hate who I’ve become. I hate what these thoughts have done to me.

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